There are three reasons why you would do something that someone wanted you to do:

1. Fear: You are scared of the person ordering you or the repercussions of not following the order.
2. Respect: You respect the person requesting you and you want to make him happy.
3. Likeability: You like the person inspiring you and you genuinely want to do it.

Notice how you move from Order, to Request to Inspiration when you move from Fear, to respect, to likability.

And then you've genuinely inspired someone, you realize that the only way to make smart people do something is by making them genuinely "want" to do it.

Orders loaded with fear of repercussions work, but only for a short term and often with devastating side effects that leave deep scars.The Take-away?

If you want to become likeable, start inspiring someone; If you genuinely want to inspire someone, start by becoming likeable. Jerks not allowed; acting like one won't help either.

When do you feel sleepy, tired and low?

When do you feel fresh, vibrant and strong?

Minus the six to seven hours of basic sleep, how you feel on any given day, depends on how much value you ship to the people around you and the world at large; not by how many leaves you took last week, or by how many sitcoms you watched on television last night.

Probably one of the reasons why the hardest working people seem to be the happiest, fresh and the most vibrant of the lot.

Sleepy? Tired?

Although it might not always be the case, maybe (and more often than not) the problem lies in the fact that you aren’t working hard enough.

Or even more importantly, you aren’t spending enough time working on what you should be working on and the weight of "knowing" but not "doing" is taking it’s toll on you.

Just a little something to think about (and act on).

Constraints:

1. Encourage innovation.
2. Push you to work harder.
3. Limit your choices there-by simplifying the paradox of choice and making you happier.
4. Help you focus on your real priorities rather than unimportant noise, bells and whistles.
5. Make you that much more brighter and stronger.
6. Make you that much more happier when the end result is just as good or better than it would have been had you worked unconstrained.

This is not just about embracing constraints or learning to work in a world of constraints. It's about seeing constraints as opportunities for innovation. And making the most of them? Nothing but pure geek awesomeness.

This article covering Beautiful Teams by Scott Berkun explains how ugly software development can get:

Pop quiz: given the choice between two job candidates, one a prodigy with a perfect 4.0 GPA and the other a possibly brilliant but "selectively motivated" 2.7 GPA candidate (two As and four Cs),[3] who would you hire? All other considerations being equal, we'd all pick the "beautiful," perfect candidate.

No one gets fired for hiring the beautiful candidate. What could be better, or more beautiful, than perfect scores? If we go beneath the superficial, perfect grades often mean the perfect following of someone else's rules. They are not good indicators of passionate, free-thinking, risk-taking minds. More important is that a team comprising only 4.0 GPA prodigies will never get ugly.

They will never take big risks, never make big mistakes, and therefore never pull one another out of a fire. Without risks, mistakes, and mutual rescue, the chemical bonds of deep personal trust cannot grow. For a team to make something beautiful there must be some ugliness along the way. The tragedy of a team of perfect people is that they will all be so desperate to maintain their sense of perfection, their 4.0 in life, that when faced with the pressure of an important project their selfish drives will tear the team apart.

Beautiful people are afraid of scars: they don't have the imagination to see how beautiful scars can be.

And if you haven't witnessed this ugliness first hand.... together, as a unified team, are you really as closely knit a team as you think you are? Just a little something to think about.

(And here's a BIG FAT thank you if you've worked with me through this ugliness and have stuck around.)

"I was feeling sick when I came in! Now that I've got some much done I'm feeling some serious energy".

(Overhead at work).

The pleasure of being productive and making progress, is for lack of a better word, magical.

Pure Geek Awesomeness.

(Back to work now).

Silent eyes staring at the monitor for hours doesn't make good Television.

Maybe that is why Television is littered with glamorous stories of success.

Maybe that is why all Steve Steve Jobs has to do is steal from Xerox.

Maybe that is why all Mark Zuckerberg has to do is steal an idea and diddle a friend.

Every time TV shows you success chances are, the true reasons behind the success story have been camouflaged and overshadowed by spicier distractions.

The story of silent people staring at computer screen for hours and typing away silently day after day for weeks, months or years, doesn't make a best selling novel or a movie that tops the charts or good television.

But it does make a successful business.

And sometimes, history.

When equals in talents and contributing capability get together they get down to business.

The question of doing elaborate agreements, putting things down on paper, getting signatures on the dotted lines, doesn't come up. No lies, no complicated contracts.

The entire focus is on building art, shipping stuff and at times, even changing the world. Not on writing CYA documents or haggling about who gets an extra five percent on profits.

Every time you hear excessive stress on agreements or documents even before you've started something gorgeous it is often a sign of insecurity.

Or an indication that one or more (or all) parties are incompetent.

I am not saying every agreement is a sign of incompetence but if you can connect on a shared cause that is larger than pettiness, you'll see magic.

People working for free to get the project live, people contributing in open source projects they like, entrepreneurs putting in personal money to keep the business alive, developers responding to support requests on forums.

Why?

Because all parties are competent. All parties are just as capable of making it on their own. All parties don't have insecurities about being diddled out of a deal.

Or maybe, its because everyone understands, that it isn't a deal that they are working on.

It's a dream.

And that's fundamentally different.

Geeks aren’t wired like the rest of the race. Even their awesomeness is different from the rest of the race. While you might love to party, your geek craves a deep intellectual meaningful conversation with just a couple of friends around small table in an open air food joint serving wholesome food.

No loud music. No distractions. No Dance. No risk of bumping into that socially awkward moment. That and a topic that is deeply intellectual and very intimate. That or just a ruthless battle of wits.

If socializing is what makes your geek more human, deep intellectual conversations with near and dear ones, are what make him who he is. If you really want to connect to your inner geek, find a friendly open air food joint with no distractions, invite a couple of close friends and trigger a deep intellectual conversation.

Watching hours melt away as you munch on wholesome food, enjoy the fresh air and enter into an inspirational or a deeply intellectual conversation with friends; pure geek awesomeness.