Fred is overworked, underpaid and frustrated. He carries his grievances, miseries and frustrations, both personal and professional, with him to work. Ask him to work on something more than the scope of his official business card and Fred gives you a look that makes you feel sorry you asked.
Fred also has a lot of complaints from life in general and his organization in particular. He is out there to make you, the customer or his colleague, pay for it.
They are not paying him what he deserves. They are making him slog. They are not professional enough. It is all their fault.
My advice to Fred is to stop. Stop whining like a baby and think. You only have three options:
- Quit your job and go find a new one.
- Start something on your own.
- (And if you cannot do one and two) Shut up, stop whining and leave your frustrations at home when you come to work.
Every workplace is going to have their share of problems. Yours has its problems too. Big deal. Whining is almost never the solution to any problem. Two people gossiping about the problems in their organization but neither one of them having the spinal cord strong enough to do something about these problems, is just a waste of their time and a toxic thing for the overall culture of the entire organization.
Making your organization, customer or manager pay for it by scoring fouls is even worse.
Venting frustrations is a part of whining. It is not particularly difficult to do. In fact, it is really easy to do. It is also the stupidest things that you can do. You are much better off writing a constructive email, bringing up the problem with the right people, dropping your mitigated speech, saying how bad things are openly and taking the hit for it.
When you work for an organization and you do not like it, there are only two things that you can do, you can change your organization or you can change your organization, either way, going to work with a frowning face and a truck load of frustration so that you can vent those out on your managers, colleagues and customers is the stupidest harmful thing that you can do to your own career and character. Stop knitting your eyebrows now.
Stop. Smile. Say cheese. Now go to work.
I wish you good luck.